To call or not to call, is that the question?

He doesn't text you back once? Fine, there is no reception wherever he is at. He doesn't call you back once? Fine, he is driving and the music is turned up real loud so he doesn't hear his phone ringing. He doesn't text or call back the second time? Attention honey, put down that phone immediately. He's not responding one too many times and you're exerting way more effort than you should be. We've got a serious problem on our hands. It is the story of the girl who likes the boy and thinks that if only he wasn't so shy or intimidated or unsure about their relationship than he would be the one to call. But because he is one of those things or possibly all of those things, than surely the girl has to call and arrange some hanging out time.

Actually this is the story of a girl who has got it all wrong. Sure you like him enough to keep trying to meet up and sure you think you're the girl he is looking for and if only you two could spend time with each other, than that would become clearly obvious. I'm not denying that at all. But have you ever given thought that this guy you have in mind, has his mind on someone else and he is initiating a relationship with the girl of his interest. Maybe you two do spend quality time with each other and when you do it seems like the relationship may be going somewhere, but maybe that is just because you have always been the one to initiate. If this is the case, then you probably need to realize that you are trying too hard to make something from something that will never be.

If the guy likes the girl, then he'll call and he'll text you and he'll be the one asking you out. If he is really into you than you won't find yourself waiting around anxiously for the next time your phone rings with his number popping up on caller ID. If he has the same interest in you that you have in him, you'll know it and there'll never be the indecisive thought running through your head of whether you should be the one to text him first and find out if he has plans tonight.

It is possible that I'm too caught up in the guy asks girl love story but for all of you feminists out there who may be opposed to my view on these matters, I have just one question to ask. Is it right for the girl to be working so hard to get the guy? I say no; it's not right and it shouldn't be happening. Honey if he likes you, he'll work for you; he'll try to get your attention and he'll do what he can to get just one date with you. He'll be the one wondering what he has to do to impress you. It should not be the other way around.

So set down your phone and forget about the guy that you've been waiting on. Hit the dating scene and meet other guys. You're beautiful and as long as you gain some self confidence, you'll be well on your way to finding that guy that'll treat you right. There won't be any waiting and your relationship won't be a game. Your cognitive dissonance will be a thing of the past and you'll finally be given the attention you deserve.